5 ways to help your kids with divorce – March 28
Let’s face it, divorce is rough. And no matter how “right road” we chose to be, or how “emotionally aware” we are, there will be days where we are just not our best. And it’s these days when it is the most difficult, and the most important, to be a good role model. Here are a few things you can do to connect with your kids when you find yourself in a rut:
1. Go for a drive and get ice cream, a hot chocolate, a croissant, a happy meal … something little and meaningful. Pick something that you know is special to them. Preferably without asking them what is special to them. The key thing here is the drive and not so much what you go to get or do. With limited eye contact there is a natural space for vulnerabilities to present themselves and for your kids to open up. We are more akin to sharing if we feel comfortable and lack of eye contact in the car is a given.
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4. Make pizza together. Who doesn’t like fresh homemade pizza? But more than that, it’s about the process. It’s a great multi person event and it can be as easy or as culinary as you like.
5. Play the “When I grow up …” game. This is the perfect thing to do at the dinner table – and it’s good for all ages, parents and kids alike. There are no limits and you can make this game into any kind of silliness that you see fit. Everyone gets a turn while you laugh and dream together. Start like this and replace the underlined words as you go …
- “When I grow up I am going to be a photographer for the national geographic.
- I am going to drive a vespa.
- I will have two horses and ten budgies.
- I will live with my sister.
- My house will be on top of stilts, on a beach in California.
- My boyfriend will be Ironman.
- I will have long hair.
- and I will wear pyjamas all the time.”