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If marriage is like a horse race: maybe it’s time to take the blinders off?
If marriage is like a horse race: maybe it's time to take the blinders off? I came across this youtube video and while it’s funny, it’s accuracy is not only representative, it’s also a little sad. It is what walks into my office regularly … the race [...]
love, divorce & quarantine
love, divorce & quarantine Being in close quarters for extended periods of time can be taxing for any couple at any point. A quarantine, when there are current underlying “hot spots” of resentment and poor communication could be overwhelming to any relationship. This is a heightened experience [...]
Forgiveness: Six tips that will help you forgive your ex
Forgiveness: 6 tips that will help you forgive your ex Let’s start with the simple fact that your shit is yours. Which also means that you ex’s, or soon to be ex’s, shit is theirs. And we often feel that if we talk about what happened or [...]
How to talk with your kids about separation and divorce
How to talk with your kids about separation and divorce While divorce has many moments that are down right daunting, telling your kids is one of the most difficult moments… hands down. It is a tough conversation that requires wholehearted developmentally appropriate honesty. Our children have this [...]
How to Fake It Through the Holidays …
I have to be honest. I had a hard time committing to this title because I am such a believer in owning your truth and giving it a voice. And yet I also believe that there is a lot of value in faking it until you make [...]
How to navigate the first post divorce Christmas
The first post divorce Christmas is difficult to navigate. It is littered with waves of unexpected emotion and no template. The good news is there are some things that you can do to help set yourself up for a softer landing … Establish a new tradition. Traditions [...]
Divorce with kindness … for you, your friends and your family
With divorce comes ups and downs. Sadness, anger, disbelief, denial, grief … the ups and downs come in all shapes and sizes. And there’s only one thing that you can control ... and that is you and how you handle it. I think it’s safe to assume [...]
How to tell your kids you are getting divorced
While divorce has many moments that will be challenging, it’s safe to say that telling your kids can be one of the most daunting moments. Let’s face it, the reason why couples stay in unhappy marriages is “for the kids”. So yes, telling the kids that you are separating is [...]
How to navigate divorce
I'm sure you've heard the term patterns, behaviours, reactions, habits ... but do you know that our patterns (yes, we all have them) very often get us the opposite of what we want in life? Our patterns are absolutely debilitating and sabotage us constantly. And we likely [...]
Divorce with Compassion
While this may sound like an oxymoron, it’s time to divorce with compassion. With a 50% divorce rate, you would think we’d have a better handle on this. We all know that it takes time for societal shifts to come to fruition, and for the sake of [...]
Top 10 divorce do’s and don’ts – a divorce survival guide
Top 10 divorce do's and don'ts - a divorce survival guide 1. Don’t call a lawyer because calling a lawyer is declaring war. Lawyers serve an indisputable purpose once you and your spouse have come to a mutually beneficial division of assets and liabilities, have determined a parenting [...]
5 ways to help your kids with divorce
5 ways to help your kids with divorce - March 28 Let’s face it, divorce is rough. And no matter how “right road” we chose to be, or how "emotionally aware" we are, there will be days where we are just not our best. And it’s these [...]
thegooddivorce process
Breaking up is hard to do. Add some children and assets to the equation and breaking up is suddenly a full time highly stressful job. Whether you’ve been married for 23 years or 6 months, the emotional and financial toll can be life altering. Divorce is a highly [...]
Do I need a Calgary divorce lawyer?
Do I need a Calgary divorce lawyer? The answer is yes ... and no. Yes you need a Calgary divorce lawyer to formalize your separation agreement so that your divorce will ultimately be approved and processed by the Calgary Court of Queen’s Bench. While you need a Calgary [...]
Kids and Divorce
Kids and Divorce Let’s face it divorce can be tough. It’s an unknown territory that will twist and test you in ways you’d never predict. And while it is difficult for us as adults to navigate, imagine what it can be like for our children. The two [...]